My Story
Every birth worker has a story for why they chose this field, so I am here to tell you mine.
In the summer of 2020, right before my senior year of high school, life decided to throw me a curveball — I found out I was pregnant. As that test turned positive, my mind swirled with doubts. College plans? Becoming a midwife? What about having a stable home? Those questions became the nightly lullabies that played in my head as I faced an uncertain future.
This pregnancy took a heartbreaking turn, ending in a first-trimester miscarriage. Amidst my grief, I was told by medical staff that I should be grateful for the loss because now I can go back to my life.
In the weeks that followed, reclaiming my sense of self felt like an uphill battle. The emotional weight was crushing, and the added physical pain in my abdomen became a haunting reminder. My doctors dismissed it as a mental struggle; it took two weeks of being told it was 'all in my head' before tests revealed a grim reality: my miscarriage had caused me to develop an infection called Pelvic Inflammatory Disease, which created a Tubo-Ovarian Abscess.
Within three months, I experienced a teenage pregnancy, the pain of a miscarriage, and a severe health crisis. Due to how late my doctors caught the issue, I was faced with the looming threat of an emergency hysterectomy if my body did not respond to the medications. Thankfully, I made a full recovery after a short hospital stay, and for everyone else, life went on as if nothing ever happened.
This challenging journey forced me to confront the harsh realities of our flawed medical system, especially in women's healthcare. Becoming a doula has allowed me to find peace in what happened and how to move forward from it so that I may become the best version of myself to not only help myself but to help others find their voice and how to use it.
Who am I?
I am currently studying Diagnostic Sonography at Montgomery Community College, with a plan to specialize in Ob/Gyn. I am building what I call a career sandwich, this is where I build/learn skills in everything related to boosting my career as a future midwife some of these include childcare, doula work, infant care specialist, and ultrasound tech (still working on this one hahaha).
I spend most of my free time pestering my moms(step mom and bio mom) with a thousand and one stories and questions and when I am not doing that I am relaxing at home with my two beautiful cats named Macey and Mia.
My Goal?
My goal as a birth worker is to educate women and men on the female reproductive system, infant/child care, and perinatal care with an unbiased opinion. Education is power in this world and walking into a pregnancy, labor/delivery, or parenthood without it is like trying to preform heart surgery with only knowledge from Greys Anatomy.
I plan to use my knowledge as a birth worker to help aid in lowering the risk of maternal and fetal death as well as the rate of unnecessary medical intervention. While I do wish to serve every single community my main focus is the BIPOC(especially the Black community) and Queer Communities as they seem to slip through the cracks and suffer more often then not.
